How to Become a Minimalist Without Even Trying


Minimalist living has become very popular in the last few years, as many of us look for ways to consume less and find fulfillment outside of material wealth. But is it realistic to become  a minimalist, especially if you have a family?

I say yes, and here’s why:

For me, living a minimalist lifestyle wasn’t a conscious decision that I made one day. It happened more out of necessity and circumstance. It was a slow and somewhat unintentional transition.

I went from a typical consumerist lifestyle to one of realizing that less is more. I’ve come to realize that I actually enjoy owning less stuff, and I promise that you can, too!

Based on my experience, here’s how to become a minimalist without even trying:

Can your life fit into your car?

You have to pack your life up into a mid-sized sedan. Could you do it?

What can’t you live without to really be happy and comfortable each day? What is absolutely essential to your daily life for health, happiness, and comfort?

In 2008, I packed my life up into a Honda Civic and drove it across the country. I spent 3 weeks on the road from Pennsylvania to Alaska, sleeping in hostels, motels, hotels, a tent, and even the car.

Looking back on it now, I have to laugh, because I packed some of the most impractical and silly things for my summer in the Last Frontier (Alaska). I had just moved from Florida, so naturally, I thought it perfectly reasonable to bring my wardrobe of sundresses and tank tops, in addition to more sensible Alaskan-wear. When you think of Alaska, don’t you think sundresses?  Yeah.

What happened during those 3 weeks on the road was that I came to realize just how little I actually needed in order to be comfortable, clean, and happy. Most of what I’d brought along remained packed away until I arrived at my destination. All I truly needed were the basics.

Live out of a suitcase and a carry-on

That first summer in Alaska, the weather was quite damp and chilly. Never the less, I still managed to wear sundresses on occasion, cold weather be damned! But honestly, I didn’t need half of what I had brought.

By the time that first summer season was over, I ended up having to ship boxes of my stuff back home to Pennsylvania. It was expensive, and I’m sure that I could have lived happily without that random stuff, like books that I’d thrifted, and clothes & accessories that I barely wore. I ended up donating most of it to Goodwill.

When I flew to Alaska again the following Spring, I packed much smarter. I brought one suitcase with weather appropriate clothes and shoes, and a carry on. My laptop, my personal care items, and my clothes were all I needed. I had achieved a true minimalist wardrobe!

Pick favorites

Over the next 4 months, I didn’t have to spend an hour stressing over what I’d wear, because I had pared down my choices to a few favorites. I didn’t waste time straightening my hair with a flat-iron, or fussing over my footwear options. I wore what was practical and what I liked. I was more interested in experiencing things, rather than dressing to impress.

When you own less, you literally have less baggage. Less stuff to lug around, less stuff to keep track of, less stuff weighing you down and taking up space.

Ultimately, you find that life is a little easier when you have fewer options to consider, when it comes to those material things. You own and enjoy the things that you really, really need and love, and that’s enough!

Get Outdoors

When I wasn’t working in Alaska, I was outdoors, hiking, walking, and wandering. Prior to that, I wouldn’t have really called myself the outdoorsy type, but the more time I spent enjoying nature, the more I grew to appreciate and love it.

I didn’t spend my free time watching tv, and I barely even checked up on the news. Nightly entertainment involved walking to waterfalls, or going down to the cruise ship docks and watching the ships pull away.

Spend some time exploring the outdoors, and you’ll quickly realize how much time you’ve wasted sitting in front of a tv, being distracted by shiny things that marketers want to sell you.

Focus on experiences and enjoying the company of others. Spend time outside, even if it’s just your backyard. When you’re busy exploring, you won’t be worrying as much about how you look, or what you should be buying to “enhance” your lifestyle.

Life can be simple, and rich

In Alaska, I often cooked in a shared kitchen, making do with whatever pots, pans, and utensils were available. I rarely used a microwave. I lived in employee housing, and the furniture I had in my room consisted of a bed frame, mattress, dresser, and a desk. Just the essentials.

I didn’t even have a bedspread, so instead I used my sleeping bag, unzipped. I cooked in a minimalist kitchen, and I slept in my minimalist room. This was how I lived for 3 summers up there, and yet I never felt like I was missing out or being deprived of anything. I had become a minimalist, without even trying.

Life can be simple and rich. You don’t have to complicate it with all kinds of stuff. Sure, appliances and gadgets can make life more convenient, but whoever said that life should always be convenient? Sometimes, you end up finding satisfaction in the simplicity.

Although I’m no longer living life out of a car or a suitcase, I appreciate the minimalist lifestyle that I adopted over those 3 summers. My life is filled with more stuff these days, but I do my very best to minimize. I never want to feel weighed down by my belongings, literally and figuratively speaking.

My minimalist lifestyle is always a work in progress. I prefer it, because it helps keep me focused on the things that truly matter in life, like shared experiences with the ones I love. That, and I don’t really like to spend money if I don’t have to!

Do you consider yourself a minimalist?  Do you think you could become a minimalist?

About Lauren

Lauren May is a freelance writer and full-time mom living her best life on a budget.

28 thoughts on “How to Become a Minimalist Without Even Trying

  1. I don’t have a lot of stuff, but I’m not a minimalist by any means. Whenever I go on vacation, I realize how little I really need, but then I look into my closet and can’t seem to be able to get rid of anything… I want it all! lol Maybe I have problems.

    the good thing is that I haven’t bought new stuff in a while, so I guess that’s good.

  2. Great post Lauren. “Life can be simple, but rich.” Very true. I’m currently working on ridding our house of our very numerous possessions (I have a problem with throwing things out). I’ve actually found that for me, the best way to go through it is box up clothes based upon how often I wear them. If I don’t unbox it, I can get rid of it. Same thing applies to a lot of the little things we have around the house.

    1. Sounds like a lot of us have trouble getting rid of stuff! It’s tough, but once you do it, you realize how insignificant “things” are in your life.

  3. I moved to Nashville and only brought what I could fit into my Toyota Corolla. I was proud of myself when I bought my house five years ago and still hadn’t accumulated enough to require another vehicle or help from friends to move!

  4. I love this! I am definitely a minimalist. I don’t like things, it makes me feel like I’m suffocating. I let go of a lot when I moved to NYC from LA with 2 suitcases and did the same when I moved to Portland. My partner is not a minimalist out of necessity as he is a musician — it’s tough! But I much prefer experiences.

  5. I’ve transitioned in much the same way – slowly, becoming happier with less. I’ve realized that I just don’t need much to make me happy. It’s awesome you were able to live with the bare minimum in Alaska! I hope you get back there. I think it would be fun to see if I could live with whatever I could fit in my car. I’m sure it puts things into perspective.

  6. I would love to drive across the country like that. Sounds like a fun adventure. I’m not a total minimalist but I think I have a lot less stuff than a lot of my friends.

  7. So much of this appeals to me. I guess I started acquiring stuff to fulfill a need but it was the wrong way to do that. I know longer bring stuff into our home, but now I need to get rid of stuff. Lots of it and I don’t know where to start.

    1. I know it can be very overwhelming. I used to want to keep everything too. Once I moved away, I transitioned away from that mindset. I still struggle with letting go of stuff, and it helps to have someone with me saying, “get rid of it!” I usually make my Mom tell me that, haha.

  8. I have to admit I’m not a minimalist, though I have seen the benefits of minimalism on a small scale. For example, when I minimize the number of clothes I have in my closet it suddenly becomes easier to pick what to wear. I would like to become more of a minimalist when it comes to electronic files and whatnot, because it seems cumbersome to deal with thousands of online files that aren’t organized well.

  9. I have always wanted to go to Alaska and your experience sounds amazing. Over the last few years, we have focused on becoming more minimalists, and I truly feel happier when I have less stuff and when I am less focused on stuff. When we focus on others and the joy in our basic experiences, we discover a much better and cheaper way to live.

    1. It was an incredible experience. That’s where my husband and I met, and we’re both itching to get back there someday, perhaps on a more permanent basis.

  10. I lived from Feb 01, 1991 until late October 1991 living with just what I could pack in the trunk of a 1989 VW Jetta. I didn’t miss a thing! It took some careful planning to be sure I had with me records, etc. I might need over these months, but aside from that the ‘lifestyle’ wasn’t challenging. I lived with friends, family, an in a tent. Now my house overflows with stuff little used and never needed. 🙁

  11. My first take on minimalism was out of necessity during my debt payoff days as I sold most of my furniture and lived as a roommate for a year. The next phase was a much more conscious and deliberate decision to live with less. I still have a lot more than 100 things and I try to purge every now and then but what I do have serves a purpose and gets used often.

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